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Shari L. Schaffer

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Shari L. Schaffer

Therapist

Shari L. Schaffer is a therapist based in New Mexico. Her pronouns are she/her and she specializes in anxiety, career challenges, compassion fatigue, and more. Shari L. Schaffer's ethnic background is White, and she speaks English.

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New Mexico

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Anxiety, Career Challenges, Compassion Fatigue, Coping with Life Changes, Depression, Grief & Loss, Relationship Challenges, Self Esteem and Confidence, Stress Management, Trauma and Abuse

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Aug 20, 2024
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Recognizing Burnout and What to Do About It
The demands of adulthood can feel relentless. The constant juggle of work and home responsibilities along with the expectation to be available online constantly makes achieving work-life balance increasingly elusive. It’s a surefire recipe for burnout.  Recognizing the signs of burnout and learning how to manage can be essential for maintaining mental health and overall well-being. {MiniWidget:Generic} What is burnout? Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged or excessive stress. It often occurs when individuals feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands. While it's commonly associated with work, burnout can also stem from other areas of life, such as caregiving, relationships, or academic pressures. Causes of burnout Several factors can contribute to burnout, including: Excessive workload If you’re consistently overloaded with work or responsibilities, it can lead to chronic stress and burnout. Lack of control Feeling like you have little or no control over your work or life circumstances can contribute to burnout. Unclear expectations When expectations are not clearly defined or constantly changing, it can create confusion and stress, leading to burnout. Dysfunctional workplace dynamics A toxic work environment, characterized by poor communication, lack of support, or unfair treatment, can significantly increase the risk of burnout. Work-life imbalance When work consistently takes precedence over personal life, it can lead to neglect of self-care, relationships, and hobbies, increasing the likelihood of burnout. Insufficient rewards Lack of recognition or inadequate compensation can decrease motivation and increase feelings of frustration. Lack of Support A lack of supportive relationships at work or home can exacerbate feelings of isolation and stress. Signs of Burnout Recognizing the signs of burnout is the first step toward addressing it. Common symptoms include: Physical Symptoms: Chronic fatigue, insomnia, headaches, and gastrointestinal issues. Emotional Symptoms: Feelings of helplessness, detachment, and a lack of motivation or satisfaction. Behavioral Changes: Increased irritability, withdrawal from responsibilities, and a decline in performance. The differences between burnout and depression Burnout and depression share similar symptoms, but they are distinct conditions. Burnout is usually linked to specific stressors (work, school, caregiving roles, etc) leading to exhaustion and decreased efficacy. On the other hand, depression is a broader mental health condition characterized by persistent sadness, a lack of interest in activities, and a pervasive sense of hopelessness. Tips for dealing with burnout If you're experiencing burnout, there are a few strategies you can implement to better manage it: Prioritize self-care: Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul, such as exercise, healthy eating, and relaxation techniques. Set boundaries: Learn to say no to additional work or commitments when you're already feeling overwhelmed. Delegate tasks: If possible, delegate tasks to others to reduce your workload. Take breaks: Step away from work regularly to recharge and avoid mental fatigue. Connect with others: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist about how you're feeling. Seek professional help: If self-care strategies aren't enough, consider seeking professional therapy to address burnout and develop coping mechanisms. How to prevent burnout Preventing burnout requires proactive measures to maintain a healthy work-life balance and manage stress effectively. Some preventive strategies include: Time management: Prioritize tasks, set realistic goals, and avoid procrastination. Stress management: Practice relaxation techniques, such as meditation or deep breathing exercises, to manage stress levels. Healthy lifestyle: Get enough sleep, eat nutritious meals, and exercise regularly to support your physical and mental well-being. Work-life balance: Set clear boundaries between work and personal life, and make time for activities you enjoy. Assertive communication: Learn to express your needs and concerns clearly and respectfully. How professional therapy can support your mental health If you're grappling with burnout, professional therapy may be able to support you in feeling better. A therapist may help you delve into the root causes of your burnout, exploring the underlying factors that have contributed to your current state. They may also equip you with healthy coping mechanisms to manage stress effectively and prevent future burnout. Additionally, a therapist may guide you in creating strategies to improve your work-life balance, establish clear boundaries, and prioritize self-care. Prolonged stress and burnout can happen to anyone. Overcoming burnout and reclaiming well-being may be possible by recognizing the signs, taking proactive steps to manage it, and seeking professional help when needed.  *The information in this blog is provided as a general educational resource only, and is not to be used or relied on for any diagnostic or treatment purpose. This information should not be used as a substitute for professional diagnosis and treatment and does not create any patient-physician relationship between you and Cerebral. Please consult your health care provider before making any health care decisions or to get guidance about a specific medical condition.
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Aug 19, 2024
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Understanding Parental Burnout and How to Cope
The job of parenting is rarely ever easy. Work responsibilities, household chores, and childcare, coupled with societal expectations, can leave parents feeling exhausted, stressed, and emotionally drained. This state of chronic exhaustion and detachment from parenting is commonly called parental burnout. {MiniWidget:Generic} What is parental burnout? Parental burnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion caused by the prolonged and overwhelming stress of parenting. Unlike typical stress, burnout leaves parents feeling completely drained, detached from their children, and doubtful of their parenting abilities. What causes parental burnout? Parental burnout is a complex condition influenced by various factors, which often intertwine, compounding the stress. Here are some common causes: Societal expectations The pressure to be the "perfect parent" and raise "perfect children" can be immense. Social media often portrays an idealized version of parenthood, creating unrealistic expectations and feelings of inadequacy. Financial factors The rising costs of childcare, education, and housing can create significant financial stress for parents. The need to work full-time to make ends meet can further exacerbate the challenges of balancing work and family life.  Health factors Postpartum depression, anxiety, and other mental health conditions can make parenting even more challenging. The lack of support and understanding for parents struggling with mental health issues can contribute to feelings of isolation and burnout. Signs of parental burnout Recognizing the signs of parental burnout is a key to protecting your mental health and well-being. Some common signs include: Emotional exhaustion: Feeling constantly drained, overwhelmed, and emotionally detached from your children. Physical exhaustion: Experiencing chronic fatigue, sleep problems, and physical symptoms like headaches and stomachaches. Loss of motivation: Feeling a lack of enthusiasm for parenting and a sense of detachment from your children. Irritability and anger: Feeling easily irritated, frustrated, and angry with your children and partner. Guilt and shame: Feeling guilty for not being the parent you want to be and ashamed of your struggles. Preventing parental burnout Implementing the following strategies may help you prevent parental burnout: Set realistic expectations Accept that it’s okay not to be perfect. Focus on being a good enough parent rather than striving for perfection. Prioritize self-care  Carve out time for activities that rejuvenate you, such as pursuing a hobby, exercising, connecting with nature, or simply taking a break. Seek support Don’t hesitate to ask for help from family, friends, or professional services. Sharing responsibilities can lighten your load. Stay organized Plan and organize your daily activities to reduce chaos and stress. A structured routine can make managing tasks easier. How to manage parental burnout If you're experiencing parental burnout, there are several strategies you can use to better manage it: Acknowledge your feelings Accept that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Recognizing your feelings is the first step toward addressing them. Take breaks Regularly take breaks to recharge. Short, frequent breaks can help you stay balanced and refreshed. Practice mindfulness Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation and deep breathing exercises, may help reduce stress and improve mental clarity. Connect with others Engage with other parents who understand what you’re going through. Sharing experiences can provide emotional support and practical advice. Focus on the positive Celebrate your successes as a parent and cherish the moments of joy with your children. Seek professional help A credentialed therapist can provide support and guidance in developing coping mechanisms and managing stress. How professional therapy may support overall mental health Therapy may be a helpful resource for parents struggling with burnout. It provides a safe and supportive environment to explore your feelings, develop coping mechanisms, and improve your overall mental health. The benefits of couples therapy Couples Therapy is designed to help partners communicate more effectively, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their relationship. It can also provide a space to discuss parenting challenges and develop strategies for co-parenting. Exploring individual therapy Individual Therapy may help you address underlying issues contributing to burnout, such as anxiety or depression. It can also provide a space to focus on your own needs and develop self-care strategies. If you're struggling with parental burnout, don't hesitate to reach out for support. With the right tools and strategies, you can overcome burnout and focus on the joy of parenting. *The information in this blog is provided as a general educational resource only, and is not to be used or relied on for any diagnostic or treatment purpose. This information should not be used as a substitute for professional diagnosis and treatment and does not create any patient-physician relationship between you and Cerebral. Please consult your health care provider before making any health care decisions or to get guidance about a specific medical condition.
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Jul 30, 2024
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5 Easy Ways to Relieve Stress
Summer is slowly but surely winding down, bringing with it a nagging feeling of missed adventures and the back-to-school scramble. This often leads to heightened stress levels. To help you navigate this transition, we’re sharing five easy stress relief activities that can help you restore a sense of calm and enhance your overall well-being. {MiniWidget:Generic} Why it’s important to relieve stress Stress happens – it's a natural way our body’s respond to pressure, but when not properly managed it can lead to mental and physical health issues. Chronic stress is associated with anxiety, depression, cardiovascular disease, and a weakened immune system. How stress impacts our mental health When we're stressed, our bodies produce higher levels of cortisol, a hormone linked to the fight-or-flight response. While this response can be lifesaving in emergencies, chronic stress keeps our cortisol levels elevated, which may impair brain function, reduce energy levels, and affect our mood. Over time, this may result in serious mental health issues such as depression and anxiety disorders. Benefits of stress relief Engaging in regular stress-relief activities can significantly improve your quality of life. Benefits include: Improved mental health: Reducing stress can decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression. Better physical health: Lower stress levels are associated with a reduced risk of chronic diseases. Enhanced mood: Stress relief can lead to improved mood and a more positive outlook on life. Increased productivity: A stress-free mind can focus better and be more productive. 5 easy activities to relieve stress Here are five simple, science-backed activities that you can start today to help manage and relieve stress. Exercise Physical activity is one of the most effective stress relievers. Exercise increases the production of endorphins, chemicals in the brain that act as natural painkillers and mood elevators. Take part in a brisk walk, a yoga session, a gym workout, or other physical activity you enjoy to experience the stress-reduction benefits exercise provides.  Coloring Coloring isn't just for kids—it can be a great stress reliever for adults too. Engaging in a creative activity like coloring can help take your mind off stressful thoughts and promote relaxation. It’s a form of art therapy that helps reduce anxiety and improve focus. Listening to music Music can affect your emotions and serve as a powerful stress management tool. Listening to soothing music can lower blood pressure, reduce cortisol levels, and bring about a sense of calm. Create a playlist of your favorite relaxing tunes and take some time each day to listen and unwind. Deep breathing Deep breathing exercises can help reduce stress by increasing oxygen supply to the brain and stimulating the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes a state of calmness. Practice techniques such as diaphragmatic breathing or the 4-7-8 breathing method to help lower stress levels. Stretching Stretching can help reduce muscle tension, improve circulation, and promote relaxation. Incorporate a few minutes of stretching into your daily routine, focusing on areas where you hold the most tension, such as your neck, shoulders, and back. How professional therapy supports overall mental health While these activities can be very effective, sometimes we need additional support to manage stress. Therapy is designed to provide personalized strategies to help cope with stress and address any underlying issues contributing to it. It’s also an opportunity to explore feelings, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and improve overall mental health. Our team of experienced mental health professionals is here to explore personalized care and support if appropriate for you.  Managing stress is vital for maintaining both mental and physical health. By incorporating these simple activities into your daily routine, you can begin to make progress toward a calmer, more balanced you. Remember—It's important to find what works best for you and to seek professional support if you need it. Your mental health is worth investing in. *The information in this blog is provided as a general educational resource only, and is not to be used or relied on for any diagnostic or treatment purpose. This information should not be used as a substitute for professional diagnosis and treatment and does not create any patient-physician relationship between you and Cerebral. Please consult your health care provider before making any health care decisions or to get guidance about a specific medical condition.
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Cerebral therapists come from a range of backgrounds and have different approaches to treatment. You can find someone who matches your preferences, such as ethnicity, gender, specialties such as LGBTQIA+ and more.

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How do I choose the right therapist for me?

Start by clarifying your specific therapy goals, be it addressing anxiety, relationship issues, or personal growth. Research therapists' credentials, specialties, and treatment approaches to find a match that aligns with your needs. When meeting with a therapist, trust your instincts and prioritize a strong therapeutic connection with someone you feel comfortable talking to. Additionally, consider practical factors such as location and fees to ensure that logistical considerations align seamlessly with your emotional and therapeutic needs throughout your mental health journey.

How does working with a therapist on Cerebral work?

At Cerebral, therapy begins with understanding your mental health goals and preferences so we can help you select the right therapist for you. In your initial sessions, you and your chosen therapist will exchange information, discuss their approach to care, and outline a treatment roadmap with realistic milestones so you know what to expect. In weekly meetings, your therapist will work with you to overcome your mental health challenges. Cerebral's flexible scheduling options, including online video chat or phone sessions, ensure convenient access to therapy that fits your lifestyle, with many therapists available throughout the week, including days, nights, and weekends.

What are the options for therapy - traditional or online?

You can opt for traditional face-to-face therapy or choose the convenience of online therapy. Online therapy is increasingly popular due to its accessibility and effectiveness, especially for issues like depression and anxiety. Studies show that online therapy is just as effective at treating depression and anxiety as in-person therapy.

What questions should I ask myself when looking for a therapist?

Questions you should ask yourself include:

  • What issues do I want to address? 
  • What therapy experience am I looking for? 
  • How far can I travel to see a therapist? 
  • Am I only interested in finding a mental health therapist near me? 
  • What’s my budget? 

What are the types of therapy?

There are multiple types of therapy, including:

  • Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)
  • Behavioral therapy
  • Humanistic therapy

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What types of therapists are there?

There are different types of therapists with different kinds of credentials, specialties, and years of experience. Once a therapist completes their education, they’re required to pass a clinical exam and counsel under the supervision of a licensed therapist. This lasts for at least two years and at least 3,000 client contact hours. 

Where can I find a therapist?

The following websites have online databases that can help you find a therapist:

Therapy Directory Psychology Today 

Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies

Recommendations or Referrals

Your primary care physician or psychiatrist can help refer you to a reputable mental health professional. If you have a friend or family member who has experience with therapy, you could ask them if they have any recommendations for a good therapist. Their therapist may also have a list of recommendations for other therapists you could consider.

How can Cerebral help in finding a therapist?

Cerebral provides access to a deep, diverse pool of therapists who have the experience to help you reach your mental health goals. Plus, we allow you to switch therapists for any reason, at any time if you so choose. All of our plans are affordable, insurance-free, and FSA/HSA eligible, so you can get started in no time. Click to see therapists in your area.

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